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While we're on the subject of bridal showers...
The other topic reminded me of something I read in the Dear Abby column a few days ago. In it a bridal shower guest commented on the practice of having guests write out self-addressed envelopes at the end of the party, supposedly to save the bride a little work in sending thank-you cards. I was incredulous. Does this really happen at bridal showers (or other parties)? I get a bit put-out at having to write out a return envelope at the doctor's or dentists office for lab results or appointment reminders, so I can't imagine how I would feel if asked to do it at a shower.
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I would say that this has been the case at every bridal or baby shower I've been at in the past 5 years or so. The envelopes have also been used for "door prize" type draws too.
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I have been to many showers and never seen this. I think if your given a gift, the least you can do is write out the thank you card and the envelope yourself. At the least, use a program and printer to do the envelopes, not your guests.
Of course, more recently, I've been to showers and had no thank you at all. So, there's that alternative..
I'm not bad. I'm just drawn that way.
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I have been to several bridal/baby showers where they have done this and used it as a door prize drawing also. This seems to be the only time I receive a thank you card. I've been to a baptism and several grad parties in the past few years and thank you cards were not sent out.
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I've been to one or two showers that have done this but its something neither my mother nor myself felt comfortable doing.
Then again I was brought up to not even think about touching the gift until the thank you card had been written and mailed.
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Wow--obviously I haven't been to a shower in a quite a while, because I had no idea this was so common-place. I'm all for efficiency, but this is the height of poor taste, IMO. Even with the door prize gimmick to help justify it.
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Originally Posted by MNNHFLTX
Wow--obviously I haven't been to a shower in a quite a while, because I had no idea this was so common-place. I'm all for efficiency, but this is the height of poor taste, IMO. Even with the door prize gimmick to help justify it.
This is the first time I'm hearing of this and I agree, it's just plain rude! No one is that busy that they can't take the time to write a personal thank you and address the envelope.
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Originally Posted by Dulcee
Then again I was brought up to not even think about touching the gift until the thank you card had been written and mailed.
My boys are 16 & 19 and I always tell them not to even think of cashing a holiday check until the TY has been sent.
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well since I'm still waiting for some thank you cards from some wedding gifts given YEARS ago. I guess thank you notes just aren't a priority any longer. I was always under the impression that they were supposed to be sent within 30 days from receiving the gift. I know when I got married I spent the week following my honeymoon doing thank you cards, that were both handwritten and address by myself. I wouldn't imagine having them either printed (the note) or having the guest doing half the work for me. They already did the work of shopping for the gift and wrapping it at least I could do is write out a thank you and address. Just my opinion.
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I've been to many bridal and baby showers where this has happened. I was beginning to think it was standard practice, so I am glad some people have never heard of it. While it is pretty handy for the bride or parent, it does seem a bit like "I'm too busy to thank you properly without your extra assistance." But on the other hand, I am just glad people are still writing letters and notes and using the regular mail.
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I have been to many showers over the past few years where this was done. And I agree, I am not in favor but at least you get a thank you. Last shower I went to the bridesmaid bought a journal. Each guest wrote their address in it and a bit of good advice or happy wishes. Bride to be had a wonderful address book and keepsake at the end. Also, kudos to the bride to be who sent out hand written and addressed thank yous within 4 days!
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Originally Posted by SBETigg
I've been to many bridal and baby showers where this has happened. I was beginning to think it was standard practice, so I am glad some people have never heard of it. While it is pretty handy for the bride or parent, it does seem a bit like "I'm too busy to thank you properly without your extra assistance." But on the other hand, I am just glad people are still writing letters and notes and using the regular mail.
That's kind of my take on it too. Where we live, the people invited to showers are often NOT wedding guests, so the bride would frequently not have the mailing address. My opinion is that it is giving the honoree a bit of help knowing who to send cards to. It would have been very helpful back when I got married!
What I find to be in poor taste are the showers brides or mothers to be organize themselves.
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Originally Posted by retiredfigment
I have been to many showers over the past few years where this was done. And I agree, I am not in favor but at least you get a thank you.
But isn't it kind of sad that the only way to ensure a a thank-you card is by helping to make it out to yourself? I suppose people can claim how busy the bride is and all, but still--years ago, after my bridal shower (and wedding and baby shower down the road) I worked full-time and spent many a lunch-break filling out thank-you notes after a quick bite to eat. It takes some time, but it's the right thing to do.
Last shower I went to the bridesmaid bought a journal. Each guest wrote their address in it and a bit of good advice or happy wishes. Bride to be had a wonderful address book and keepsake at the end.
I think that is a wonderful gesture and a much better way to get the proper addresses of guests.
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I can honestly say that I have never heard of such a thing. My bridal shower is this saturday (yay!) and I would never ask a guest to fill out their own thank you cards....I am very traditional in that I look forward to handwriting every thank you and addressing it myself and actually thinking about the person I am writing to. I must say that I am somewhat overwhelmed (in a good way) that these showers actually take place...I mean, it's so amazing to think that someone planned this for me and all the women I love will be there!! Gifts are just an unnecessary bonus! I am sooo excited for my shower that I can't comprehend that women would actually be this lazy...?
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Next thing you know, they'll have everyone text message the bride so she can just use her cell phone to text back her thank yous.
Congratulations and best wishes, AlliMo.
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The last few showers I've attended, both baby and wedding, I've been given an envelope to fill out. It doesn't quite mean the same when you get mail in your own hand writting.
I really like the address book idea too. Much more personal - then sending yourself mail.
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Originally Posted by SBETigg
Next thing you know, they'll have everyone text message the bride so she can just use her cell phone to text back her thank yous.
Congratulations and best wishes, AlliMo.
haha that's funny! Thanks SBETigg!
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Originally Posted by Mickey'sGirl
Where we live, the people invited to showers are often NOT wedding guests, so the bride would frequently not have the mailing address.
Now that's odd in my area. That would rub me the wrong way. It seems that by being invited to the shower and not the wedding that they're not important enough to be invited to the wedding, but are expected to give a gift anyway. In our neck of the woods, if you're invited to the shower, then you are invited to the wedding.
But being asked to address Thank You envelopes to yourself is downright tacky. Like she can't be bothered. What's next, will she stamp her name so she doesn't need to actually sign the card? If the bride needs addresses, either the bridesmaids (or mother of the bride or whomever sent the invitations) should give her the addresses or she can ask for them. Then she can actually pull herself away from texting or Facebook or Twitter for a couple of hours and sign the cards and address the envelopes herself. Sheesh.
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Originally Posted by diz_girl
But being asked to address Thank You envelopes to yourself is downright tacky. Like she can't be bothered. What's next, will she stamp her name so she doesn't need to actually sign the card?
In all fairness, whoever is hosting the shower is probably who decides to have the guests do the address thing. Maybe the bride wouldn't even mind writing out her own envelopes.
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