Hoping someone familiar with both hotels can give me some advice.

I'm planning a trip to DL in October for my 30th birthday with some friends and family. It'll be adults-only. We'll be staying 3 or 4 nights.

I've always loved the appeal of the Grand Californian theming as a big fan of the Wilderness Lodge in WDW. However, it seems like the Disneyland Hotel has more of a younger, hip vibe to me? What I'm looking for is a place where I really feel like I'm at Disney with the theming. We'll eat a lot of our meals at the parks, but might have a dinner at the resort one night at least and probably drinks as well. Trader Sam's looks amazing to me (but I could always visit even if I don't stay at the Disneyland Hotel). I just want to feel like I'm really a part of the magic where I'm staying, and not just like I'm at a hotel. Which do you think will be a better fit?

Thanks so much!