While we're on the subject of bridal showers...

[SBETigg]

In all fairness, whoever is hosting the shower is probably who decides to have the guests do the address thing. Maybe the bride wouldn't even mind writing out her own envelopes.

Good point, Beth. Very true. I didn't mind doing it at the showers where it happened, but it always freaks me out to get the mail with my own handwriting until I remember where it came from.

[princessgirls]

I think it's TACKY!!!!! I go to the store, spend my money on a gift, haul it to the shower and write the envelope for my Thank You...I don't think so.

I recently hosted a shower for my sister. We played Bridal Shower bingo and listed most of the gifts she registered for in the body of the bingo, after she opened a gift you crossed it off. The first person at each table to get bingo received the beautiful fresh flower centerpieces. They were nice, so the ladies were into it.
The bride should take the time to write the thank yous and the envelopes, just as the guest took the time to come to the shower, and go out and purchase a gift.
Julie

[diz_girl]

In all fairness, whoever is hosting the shower is probably who decides to have the guests do the address thing. Maybe the bride wouldn't even mind writing out her own envelopes.

Yes, you're right. A friend from work got married recently had a few bridesmaids who turned out to be less than helpful. Actually, one or two were real wackaloons. The bride herself is a considerate and thoughtful person.

[Magic Smiles]

I have never had this happen to me, but I think that it is a great idea. Not only does it help out the bride, then the bride is sure of having the correct address to send the thank you card to. It not like you are writing your own thank you card, it is only the envelope.

[brivers222]

I have a master spreadsheet with all 200 addresses for our wedding invites (yeah i know....HUGE... ugh) and about 75 addresses are needed for the shower. I decided that I want to just print the addresses directly onto the envelopes and be done with it. Actually I can get much better and stylish writing via fonts.

I ran the idea of having guests fill out their own envelopes with our "wedding planner" aka soon to be step mother in law... her reply was that it was tacky and down right crude. Not sure if I agree with her on that 100%. I mean its a shower, those are so informal.

For the wedding I wouldn't dream of doing this. BUT, people do collect names and addresses in the guest book.... so in a way they are collected.

i am neither for or against the guests filling out their own thank you. Would i be offended if it ever happened to me? NOPE.

As the groom portion of the Bride/groom combo, i will say that we are told to "give us your people you want invited and then just show up at such and such as place at such and such a time and just say thank you a lot" Meaning... we are not to worry about anything. So, we really can't control how the guests are handled and what they may be asked to do.

[Terra]

I've been to showers like that. It doesn't bother me personally. Only takes a few seconds. Like a PP said, they did use it for prizes too.

I didn't do it at my own shower though.

Someone mentioned texting Thank Yous! Too funny! Although I wouldn't mind getting an email/online card Thank You. I'm all about reducing paper consumption and forest reduction, so environmentally I think it would be nice personally.

[lettripp]

I didn't know this was done... so at my shower we didn't do it. And, had I known this was an "option," I still would not have done it. Filling out the envelopes is the easiest part... I think it is unbelievably lazy to find short-cuts for Thank-You's. At the same token, I didn't follow Miss Manners on invitations and printed envelopes off of a spreadsheet... no one commented as to this being rude or impersonal but I think there is a HUGE difference between having someone (essentially) thank themselves and letting your computer address things for you!

Just my

[Cinderelley]

I had never heard of this being done or inviting people to the shower who aren't invited to the wedding. Both of those seem rather rude to me. It is like saying "you're not important to me".

[DisneyOtaku]

Wow. I...I have never heard of this. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding a year ago, and at her shower, I sat next to the bride and wrote down names and what they gave her so she could remember who got her what (because some family members bought her things as a family and then some other things just by themselves). But yeah...she did all the thank you notes herself.